The Art of Saying No We often live our lives taking on the victim role, operating from a belief that life is something that happens to us. We agree to become victims of our circumstances. When unfortunate events occur, when trauma happens, we start to identify with them and become them. We associate ourselves with the pain, the loss, the failure, running that same program and repeating patterns, like a computer running its codes. As they say in the film Maniac , “A pattern is

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